Welcome back to Mook's Personals, the internet's unofficial
newsletter of record concerning real stories of people from
around the world meeting and getting to know one another via
the internet. All names have been changed and I believe
all the stories to be true.
 
 

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FATE HAD SOMETHING ELSE IN STORE FOR ME

Hi readers, I haven't read anything nice or beautiful about
online relationships in awhile from here so here is one for
you.

Three months ago I met a woman named Natalie. I was the first
person that responded to her internet personals ad. We e-mailed
each other slowly at first and I noticed immediately that she
wasn't like the other women that I had dated. Actually I was
getting ready to just give up on dating through the internet
personals and simply let fate take its course in my life.
Funny how fate had something else in store for me.

After chatting with Natalie through e-mail and chat programs for
a while we knew we just had to meet one another. Now Natalie
is from Estonia and I am in Florida, so the problem of getting
her a Visa to visit the States was hanging in the air. Natalie
told me that when she went to get a Visa, there were three people
in front of her applying for a Visa to visit the States. Natalie
said their Visas were all declined for no good reason and all
were told to try back in another year!

After Natalie explained her story to the authorities, as fate
would have it, they felt compelled to give her the Visa that
she needed to come to the States. I recently changed
professions -- going from an accountant to a flight attendant
and, as luck would have it, I was offered a 600 dollar voucher
after being delayed on a flight. So fate or luck provided not
only the means (Visa) but also a free plane ticket (voucher).
Natalie and I arranged for her to come to the States and stay
with me for two weeks. I was to show her around my city and we
could spend time together.

Natalie and I had already exchanged terms of endearment
towards each other, but we knew that it would probably take
some time to really get to know each other in person. Also,
about three years ago I ended a bad marriage  in which my
ex-wife took me for everything I had. So I was very leery
about starting a new relationship with anyone.

When we met at the airport, it wasn't "love at first sight,"
but we knew we were more in love with the person that was
inside rather than just looks. To make a long story short we
spent the entire two weeks in each other's arms. We couldn't
stop staring at each other's eyes and we just fell deeper
and deeper in love.

Now I know that some of you might be skeptical and not
believe that love can happen so fast - and believe me I used
to be one of them. Natalie has just left to return to Estonia
but she plans to come back, and when she does we will start
a new life together as husband and wife. We are looking forward
to a very happy life together and I know now that I have found
the right person for me.

So for all of you who have given up hope on finding the right
person out there in cyberspace -- let me just tell you, don't!
Thanks, Kenny
 

MY LAST WORDS TO HIM WERE SAID OUT OF ANGER

Dear Mook I have been receiving your newsletter for some time
now and I enjoy reading about other people's experiences on the
internet.

I am a 16 year old junior in high school and I spend my
"home time" online. I usually talk to friends from school, or
family members, but I have a few friends that I've met online
that live around the world. One such person was Charles who
lived in France. He became one of my best friends. I could
tell Charles anything and everything and he understood me and
was there for me.

Charles killed himself this past weekend and when I found
out I was devastated. I knew that he was battling depression
and I tried to be there for him as much as I possibly could,
but obviously it wasn't enough. My last words to him were
said out of anger because of his jealousy of my boyfriend.
I told Charles that I would not "date" him online because
I need someone I can touch and hold.

I am not even able to go to his funeral because I am only
16 and I live in Florida and the funeral is in France. I
wanted to ask if anyone had any advice as to how to cope
with this situation and "finalize it" since I am unable to
attend his funeral. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Signed Grieving in Sarasota.

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[On 5/3/00 Tim wrote (DID I DO THE RIGHT THING?) about "dating"
Donna online for six months. They lived far away from each
other and Tim grew increasingly jealous about what Donna was
doing, including her spending the night with Peter. They split
up and then reconciled, after Tim gave her an ultimatum. Tim
said he was "going mental" and asked readers if they thought
he had done the right thing in giving Donna another chance:]

Tim, if she cheated on you once, she will likely do it again.
If you are not there in person, it would be up to her to
confess, and that would probably not happen. She can have it
both ways online, and you would never find out. Brutal as it
may sound: she will probably go for the flesh and blood
boyfriend, rather than the one who is only words on a screen.
Kathleen

I believe Tim did the right thing in giving Donna an ultimatum.
If he didn't do that then he would wind up a love yoyo. It is
hard to give up someone you love but it is also hard to keep
hurting. I would suggest he look for someone closer to him and
someone who would be devoted to just him. Maybe if he were to
talk to someone new online it might help him to forget her.
I would also tell him to pray to God about his problem. Sally

Tim, I can totally understand the long distance relationship,
as I have been in one for a year. I know they are hard. I
have learned that you have to go with your heart. People don't
always understand the way you feel and think it would be better
if you just ended the relationship. If you feel it's worth it,
go for it! Lots of luck! Joanie

Tim should not have given Donna another chance (has he ever
actually met her in person?). Usually when someone cheats once
they will do it again...I know from past experiences. It's gonna
hurt a lot in the beginning but as time goes on he'll get over
it and find someone new. Annie

Tim, I know how it feels to have the one whom you completely
gave your heart to have an intimate relationship with another
party. Eventually I had to face the truth, and I think you
should too. I know it's hard to forget her, but if you really
love her and she wants out, then let her out. I do believe
in what goes around comes around though. GWR
 

[And finally, Helen 5/3 (HE DOESN'T TRUST WOMEN ANYMORE)
wondered what Jack, the man she met online, meant when he
signed a card "ditto."  I received a lot of email from readers
eager to explain:]

Helen, rent the movie "Ghost" and then tell me what "ditto"
means :-) Its a good thing. I met my guy on the net, and we
were both afraid of getting hurt again. I have told him how
I feel about him after 6 months, and he has managed to say
"ditto" among other things. I appreciate it. It just means that
the feeling is there, but the person might just be afraid to or
have a problem with the "L-Word" :-) So take it easy and
enjoy :-) Mindy

It could be Jack's way of saying "I love you" like in the
movie "Ghost." Whenever Demi Moore told Patrick Swayze she
loved him, he would say "ditto." Maybe Jack wants to say it,
but isn't ready. You say you've both been married twice,
that's reason for him (or you, for that matter) to be a little
hesitant. Ask him about it if it really bugs you, if he's as
great as you say, maybe he deserves a little more time.
Good luck! Tori
 

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That's it for today. Wednesday more heartfelt stories of people
using the internet to meet people all around the world. Please
keep sending me emails: stories, feedback, tips for readers
and thoughts. Also, a special request: we are putting the final
touches on the Mook's web site and I'd like to include reader
reviews -- good and bad -- of personals web sites and chat
channels. Please write me and tell me what you think about
the various sites.

Thanks again to all the wonderful Mook's readers for
continuing to subscribe. Until Wednesday, Best from Mook.
 

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